cruzer wrote:he is starting to focus on things a little longer now.

My mom's.

He died at 1:05 this morning.

just another *sigh*

Cruzer, so sorry. I think you and your family are being tested. Thinking of you.

daj59 wrote:Ok, //smack. Don't want you to go through withdrawal.

I was more concerned about you

cruzer wrote:he is starting to focus on things a little longer now.

My mom's.

He died at 1:05 this morning.

just another *sigh*

Man -o-man. So sorry. Your Mom OK? I know she isn't but she is really getting slammed. Things aren't supposed to happen all at once. You are supposed to have some time in between these things to heal.

daj59 wrote:Well, I was starting to get the shakes but I was willing to suffer for you.

//blinks innocently

//smack

Stop that!

Cruzer, I am so sorry about your grandfather. Your family is really being put through it.
You are in my prayers.

My dad should be moving to a rehab facility today. Finally! Some good news (sorta)!

Afternoon, everyone.

Sorry to hear about your Grandpa, Cruzer. And that's great news about your Dad!

Joyner, you already back from shopping? Saw a good T-shirt for you.
"Don't make me use my Librarian voice"

pooflady wrote:Joyner, you already back from shopping? Saw a good T-shirt for you.
"Don't make me use my Librarian voice"

Back from shopping, got easternstar dresses. Shirt sounds great. How's your back?

cruzer wrote:My mom's.

He died at 1:05 this morning.

just another *sigh*

I am sorry to read this, Mr. Cruzer. My condolences to you and your family.

joyner wrote:Back from shopping, got easternstar dresses. Shirt sounds great. How's your back?

I think it's going to take a long time to get back to normal.

If you go to the Signals website, there's two pages of things for readers. (pg. 54&55). Ever hear of Bookopoly?

pooflady wrote:I think it's going to take a long time to get back to normal.

If you go to the Signals website, there's two pages of things for readers. (pg. 54&55). Ever hear of Bookopoly?

Ohhhh! I love lots of the shirts. The nightshirt looks like my TBW (to be read) pile on my bedside table. I love the "don't make me use my librarian voice" shirt! Never heard of bookopoly but it looks like fun.

joyner wrote:Ohhhh! I love lots of the shirts. The nightshirt looks like my TBW (to be read) pile on my bedside table. I love the "don't make me use my librarian voice" shirt! Never heard of bookopoly but it looks like fun.

If I was in the mall with my kids and they spotted a bookstore, they used to take my arm and pull me past.

Off to the bank, the vacuum cleaner store and Border's. See you later.

pooflady wrote:If I was in the mall with my kids and they spotted a bookstore, they used to take my arm and pull me past.

Yep, husband and daughter never want me to go into a bookstore. "We'll never get her out of there!"

pooflady wrote:Off to the bank, the vacuum cleaner store and Border's. See you later.

You are "letting" husband vacuum with the upright aren't you? Vacuum other than the Roomba hurts my back.

joyner wrote:You are "letting" husband vacuum with the upright aren't you? Vacuum other than the Roomba hurts my back.

Yeah, just using the Roomba right now.

Cruzer, I am sorry to hear about your granddad.
I am glad your Dad is improving!

I'm back.

pooflady wrote:I'm back.

yeah!

MIL update - The cancer is too large for surgery so my mother-in-law is starting chemo on Monday. It is going to be very aggressive, and of course we are way to far away to do anything. So I am asking for prayers and good thoughts and all that stuff.

cruzer wrote:he is starting to focus on things a little longer now.

My mom's.

He died at 1:05 this morning.

just another *sigh*

Sheesh. When it rains it pours. Cruzer, my condolences to you and your family. You are still in our thoughts and prayers.

Afternoon everyone.

KtCallista wrote:yeah!

MIL update - The cancer is too large for surgery so my mother-in-law is starting chemo on Monday. It is going to be very aggressive, and of course we are way to far away to do anything. So I am asking for prayers and good thoughts and all that stuff.

I'm sorry to hear that. Adding her (and your family) to the list. Nothing is worse than feeling helpless.

KtCallista wrote:yeah!

MIL update - The cancer is too large for surgery so my mother-in-law is starting chemo on Monday. It is going to be very aggressive, and of course we are way to far away to do anything. So I am asking for prayers and good thoughts and all that stuff.

You've got it. I know how hard it is to be far away when something's wrong. You add guilt onto the worry.

pooflady wrote:You've got it. I know how hard it is to be far away when something's wrong. You add guilt onto the worry.

I am getting more "used to it", sadly. We don't live near any family, so when stuff like this happens, there never is much we can do for anyone. It is a very different situation for my sister-in-law, she lives within driving distance of all of her family, but MIL is far away for both of us (kinda between us actually). So she isn't sure what to do and feels more guilty right now. I am going to be e-mailing her soon. Both of us are coordinating a trip to visit MIL, but it was slated for November, we may move it.

daj59 wrote:So sorry! You are all in my thoughts and prayers!

thanks 'selli, daj, and poof.

I am going to go put fussy baby down for a nap, talk to you all later.

KtCallista wrote:yeah!

MIL update - The cancer is too large for surgery so my mother-in-law is starting chemo on Monday. It is going to be very aggressive, and of course we are way to far away to do anything. So I am asking for prayers and good thoughts and all that stuff.

I'm so sorry! I will pray for you and your family! It is really hard to be far away....

dontwantaname wrote:So sorry Cruzer.
Your mom is going to beat herself up for not being there. Not now, after your dad is better.
There is no way she could be there. She made the right choice.
The whole situation is totally unfair.

You are exactly right don't!

dontwantaname wrote:My mom goes through days were she keeps telling me how her dad (who was 95) asked her to stay in the hospital with him and she went home. He died that night. Of old age!!! But she still gets upset about it. Not so much at the time. Now, as she gets old.


Cruzer, when your dad is better and your mom starts thinking about this, you tell her the I said she did they only thing she could.
Matter of fact, you can tell her the entire woot community said she did the only thing she could do.

It was actually her mother that told her to wait to see what happens.

She's got a level head, for a woman, and she knew that she couldn't be in two places at once, and I'll remind her of that.

Even if she did leave yesterday, he wouldn't have talked to her and she would have had an hour with him before he passed.

Nurse said that it was quick. I don't know that it helps any to know that, but we know it.

I can't imagine being in her shoes. I'm not sure that she could handle it any better than she has. She just has to remember that he had a good, long life. He was well into his 80's. She also knows that we are there for her whenever she needs us. I'm am glad that we were here for her, though.

I am so mad that my dad can't go, though. He was just as heart broken as she was. She told him this morning and they cried together. Even when he was trying to tell his dad he was choking up. There is one thing that I kinda hate is that I don't cry very often, and somehow, I know I want to, and I just don't. I'm not sure who I got that from.

//end random thoughts.

cruzer wrote:There is one thing that I kinda hate is that I don't cry very often, and somehow, I know I want to, and I just don't. I'm not sure who I got that from.

This, I know.

KtCallista wrote:yeah!

MIL update - The cancer is too large for surgery so my mother-in-law is starting chemo on Monday. It is going to be very aggressive, and of course we are way to far away to do anything. So I am asking for prayers and good thoughts and all that stuff.

I shall pray for her and your family too, KtC.

AZGman wrote:This, I know.

Oh?

cruzer wrote:Oh?

Intimately.