dontwantaname wrote:We argue about it constantly.
For years the focus of Daughters therapy was breaking away from her father. More than one therapist spoke to him about it.

We got along fine for years and years until the kids got old enough to brake away.

They won't break away until they're cut loose.

dontwantaname wrote:They are going to be screwed if he dies young.

They're gonna be screwed if he doesn't let go.

dontwantaname wrote:Yep.

Plus, we don't have unlimited extra money.
Not to mention the fact that he less than 10 years from retirement. This is suppose to be when people save money.

Right now son is in FL with his friend at the friends second house (condo)
That kid pays his own way. Why? His parents spent their extra money on a second home, not the kids. (Although the kids and their friends have used the condo, for free, more than once.)

Meanwhile you're having his car repaired while he parties in Florida.

dontwantaname wrote:We argue about it constantly.
For years the focus of Daughters therapy was breaking away from her father. More than one therapist spoke to him about it.

Even if she tried, he is even worse than she is.

We got along fine for years and years until the kids got old enough to brake away.

Okay, then it's been established that this is more than just a whim on his part, it's a mental problem and he needs therapy. Then there's nothing you can do about it and you have my sympathy. No more barbs from me.

pooflady wrote:Okay, then it's been established that this is more than just a whim on his part, it's a mental problem and he needs therapy. Then there's nothing you can do about it and you have my sympathy. No more barbs from me.

Nor I.

dontwantaname wrote:I just ate ice-cream and chocolate for dinner.
Not healthy choices.

Be healthy later.

dontwantaname wrote:When hubby gets home he wants to go for slices. Somehow in his mind that is dinner.
He went shopping, but didn't leave work early, so he won't be home until 8 or 9 or later.

What are slices?

dontwantaname wrote:When hubby gets home he wants to go for slices. Somehow in his mind that is dinner.
He went shopping, but didn't leave work early, so he won't be home until 8 or 9 or later.

So get a slice with broccoli and carrots on it!!

dontwantaname wrote:Pizza.

What do you generally get?

Mowed the yard. Front and back. Tried to weed eat, but the darned thing is mucked up and I am too tired to fiddle with it. Maybe tomorrow.

Need to finish working on the fish tanks, but I got gas on my hands refueling the mower and worry it will get in the water. Washed my hands several times and can still smell it, so will do that tomorrow too, I guess.

D'name...you have my sympathies. My ex was like that, with his mom. All the kids had been out of the house for 10 years before she did more than make a few small changes to their rooms. She wouldn't let go...and I think that is a big part of why my ex was so codependent. He had never really been independent!

dontwantaname wrote:He forgot we have leftovers.
He will always vote for pizza.

That's not what I asked.

AZGman wrote:Nor I.

me three

dontwantaname wrote:You mowed the lawn in the heat? Ick!

I have a stand for a fish tank, but it looks like I'll never set a tank up.

It isn't that hot. Mid 70's. Just a big yard, and it didn't get mown twice last, so was tall.

I lost count of the empty tank/stands we have. Set up one in the bedroom, fish that are currently in quarantine will be relocated and that tank will be the new home of some live food, allowing the 10 currently holding them to be cleaned and set to for one tiny bully fish who is in a 20 right now, plants from it will be divided up, and it will be taken down, allowing the stand to be finished, and a 40 put in its place for a breeding colony of pygmy cories.

It is like musical chairs for fish.

Mavyn wrote:It isn't that hot. Mid 70's. Just a big yard, and it didn't get mown twice last, so was tall.

I lost count of the empty tank/stands we have. Set up one in the bedroom, fish that are currently in quarantine will be relocated and that tank will be the new home of some live food, allowing the 10 currently holding them to be cleaned and set to for one tiny bully fish who is in a 20 right now, plants from it will be divided up, and it will be taken down, allowing the stand to be finished, and a 40 put in its place for a breeding colony of pygmy cories.

It is like musical chairs for fish.

At least they have different scenery occasionally.

What do you think is the best way to cool down a hot car? I'm talking about the temperature inside the car, not a stolen one and not one that has a radiator problem. Just turn the a/c on full blast. Open the front windows? Open all the windows? Open just the back windows?

pooflady wrote:What do you think is the best way to cool down a hot car? I'm talking about the temperature inside the car, not a stolen one and not one that has a radiator problem. Just turn the a/c on full blast. Open the front windows? Open all the windows? Open just the back windows?

open driver's door for a couple minutes, start car and A/C, close door; then rear windows down an inch or so,and with A/C on full, let sit for ~ 10 minutes.

I leave my pop out windows in the back open. Then AZ's method works great, if you can tolerate it you can sit in the car for it too. My van cools down pretty quick (at least in the front) so 10 mins would be over kill.

AZGman wrote:open driver's door for a couple minutes, start car and A/C, close door; then rear windows down an inch or so,and with A/C on full, let sit for ~ 10 minutes.

No, this is for when I forget to remote start it before I leave. No sitting. Get in, start, go.

pooflady wrote:No, this is for when I forget to remote start it before I leave. No sitting. Get in, start, go.

You said best; not quickest.


start; full blast; all windows down ~ 4 inches.

Your windows should never be fully closed in summer unless you're certain it's gonna rain.

AZGman wrote:Your windows should never be fully closed in summer unless you're certain it's gonna rain.

Too many pop-up showers to leave the windows down.

pooflady wrote:Too many pop-up showers to leave the windows down.

Not down; one window, open about a half inch.

pooflady wrote:Too many pop-up showers to leave the windows down.

I leave all the windows cracked, if there is a pop-up shower it usually isn't too messy. I keep a towel in the car. (except in the driveway, all closed in the driveway overnight).

Get in lower all windows, start AC, adjust seatbelt, stow purse and anything else you do, roll up windows, and go.

dontwantaname wrote:I open all the door and the hatch in the back. Leave it like that for a minute. then shut them.
Gets the majority of the heat out.

That works too, but poof's in a hurry.

KtCallista wrote:I leave all the windows cracked, if there is a pop-up shower it usually isn't too messy. I keep a towel in the car. (except in the driveway, all closed in the driveway overnight).

Get in lower all windows, start AC, adjust seatbelt, stow purse and anything else you do, roll up windows, and go.

There. A woman's answer.

AZGman wrote:There. A woman's answer.

Umm thanks, I think...

KtCallista wrote:Umm thanks, I think...

I didn't mention purses or towels or other relevant considerations.

AZGman wrote:There. A woman's answer.

Guess so. That's pretty much what I do except it's just the driver window, and it is still down when I go. I roll it up shortly after.

evenin

I always lv windows cracked and I use a windshield screen (those reflective thingies to keep out the sunlight). Lil bro gave me grief for not protecting the leather interior of my jeep....and it really does help keep the car cooler.

as for cooling it down fast after starting, I always open the passenger side back window, and I crack the sunroof a bit. of course, that is when my a/c is working. it isn't working very well right now. JoeyCockerSpaniel has not been overly amused at traveling in a warm jeep the past couple of days.

I open the sun roof. Let the hot air rise!