Off to fetch another child. Then I can have three fussy whiny tired kids until it's time to go to the auditorium or the play again. Then I can come home and pretend I have enough mental faculties left not to dribble down my shirt.

KtCallista wrote:What she also didn't know, was that abstinence was an option. She just assumed that if a guy wanted to have sex and she didn't have anything better to do she was to just go along with it.

wait ... isn't this a truism? WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO SAY HERE?!?

KtCallista wrote:Possibly, and definitely so for GMan, who has been there done that and stays relatively knowledgeable about the world in general (I assume, but I don't think he'll make an ass out of me for it).

However, it may not be the universal case. There are some people who are told these seemingly basic things and it is the first time they've heard it, or understood it. Also many people don't think it applies to them, even if they have heard it until a medical professional tells them. Just like most people don't believe they'll ever be in a car accident until they are.

I met a girl when I was a newlywed. She was just barely 20 and pregnant. She told me she had lost two other babies in miscarriages and that even though she'd only known the father for 4 months she was determined to make a go of it. She had been using birth control, but didn't know that antibiotics can interfere with hormone birth control. What she also didn't know, was that abstinence was an option. She just assumed that if a guy wanted to have sex and she didn't have anything better to do she was to just go along with it. Not going to debate whether we need abstinence only or any of that, but someone could have at least told the girl that many people (they've done studies, to back up that) wait. Wait until they are older or marriage. She had no idea it was "even an option" (her words). So I'm all for hearing it again, because sometimes it may be the first time for someone and that person will be very grateful.

Right, I wasn't saying they shouldn't say that stuff, but that most of the time it is for nothing.

no1 wrote:wait ... isn't this a truism? WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO SAY HERE?!?

I knew someone would have an issue with that.

no1 wrote:wait ... isn't this a truism? WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO SAY HERE?!?

That *******************************************.

KtCallista wrote:I knew someone would have an issue with that.

You should have explained oral sex and so on as well.

FenStar wrote:You should have explained oral sex and so on as well.

Why would I need to explain that, this isn't the dorms. Besides there are plenty of decent guides (and some not so good ones) online, just google them.

KtCallista wrote:Why would I need to explain that, this isn't the dorms. Besides there are plenty of decent guides (and some not so good ones) online, just google them.

One would assume abstinence could be googled as well.

FenStar wrote:One would assume abstinence could be googled as well.

The thing about Googling, you generally need a rough idea of what you are looking for to find it. And this was over a decade ago, Google wasn't the answer to absolutely everything just yet. Most people who want to know about oral sex have at least heard the concept before. 10 years ago, yes I and others I knew seemed to teach a handful of people each year.

Evenin', folks.

Oh well, bedtime.

AZGman wrote:Oh well, bedtime.

Oh I wish. Have a good one.

I'm enjoying Jeopardy this week.

pooflady wrote:I'm enjoying Jeopardy this week.

Oh that's good. Lots of good questions?

KtCallista wrote:Most people who want to know about oral sex have at least heard the concept before. 10 years ago, yes I and others I knew seemed to teach a handful of people each year.

Q.E.D.

j5 wrote:Q.E.D.

You lived in the dorms too didn't you?

KtCallista wrote:The thing about Googling, you generally need a rough idea of what you are looking for to find it. And this was over a decade ago, Google wasn't the answer to absolutely everything just yet. Most people who want to know about oral sex have at least heard the concept before. 10 years ago, yes I and others I knew seemed to teach a handful of people each year.

So, if google wasn't the answer, then why would you suggest it? It occurs to me that someone who isn't smart enough to figure out that they could just not have sex probably isn't smart enough to think of alternatives. If she was pressured into it and she lacked the ability to say no, then her having another option would be a good thing. I would imagine more people have heard of abstinence than oral sex.

dontwantaname wrote:Didn't everyone who didn't know, find out what oral sex was with the Clinton affair?

"I did not have sexual relations with that women"

"I am not a crook"
"We have secured peace in our time"
And about a million others.

ThunderThighs wrote:Sex talk in PWA again? You make the lurkers happy.

If they can understand it, I'm not to sure what ktcalista is saying.

Hello. Just kind of lurking here. Nothing to add to the subject matter.

pooflady wrote:Hello. Just kind of lurking here. Nothing to add to the subject matter.

You could correct my horrible grammar, but it would be a futile effort.

dontwantaname wrote:There are no lurkers.

Oh, so you figured out how to see who is viewing the thread?

I am tired, but I need to take a bath, but I don't have any clean clothes.
I also need to eat dinner, but I am not hungry.

FenStar wrote:You could correct my horrible grammar, but it would be a futile effort.

Nah, I've become desensitized to bad grammar and spelling for the most part.

FenStar wrote:I am tired, but I need to take a bath, but I don't have any clean clothes.
I also need to eat dinner, but I am not hungry.

A conundrum.

pooflady wrote:A conundrum.

Indeed.
I don't know what third world problems are, but I can't imagine living with bigger issues than mine. To be fair though, I doubt I would live long enough to find out.

ThunderThighs wrote:This was going down about 6 blocks from my son's class this morning.

Savannah kidnapping

Yeah, someone mentioned that today, I had forgotten your son was there.

ThunderThighs wrote:This was going down about 6 blocks from my son's class this morning.

Savannah kidnapping

Scary.

FenStar wrote:Indeed.
I don't know what third world problems are, but I can't imagine living with bigger issues than mine. To be fair though, I doubt I would live long enough to find out.

It's pretty amazing what humans can live through.

pooflady wrote:It's pretty amazing what humans can live through.

Yes, but I think I would rather not.

ThunderThighs wrote:A bit. The school quickly communicated to everyone to stay put though.

Plus, it is Savannah, so it isn't too out of the norm.