I am from MA so I know the nightclub fire of which you speak.
I think we need to have more details - morning wedding, afternoon wedding, evening wedding? Current theme (if any?)
We are having a Sunday mid-day wedding. There is no theme except for trees incorporated in the design of the invitation, thank-you, place card, and ketubah. If there is anything, then it is a loose naturey feel. We are hoping to be out doors, but July in Philly may be hot. We were thinking of fans for that reason. I am going to be in semi-casual, organic, sweat-free-labor (probably not sweat free on the day) clothes in natural colors. She is going to be in a beautiful ivory dress with a basket weave design. She is beautiful already and will look absolutely stunning in this. We are working on all the wording and actions in the ceremony to be egalitarian. It is also a weekend event, so our different communities can get to know eachother. If you follow my picture posts in the chops, the base url is our wedding site.