ALRIGHT!!! Remote viewer works. I don't know how many are watching these posts but since so many helped me, I thought I would post how I was finally able to get this to work on both an IPAD and an android device using a Westell DSL Modem/Router combo box....
Important: Make sure that if you are using wifi, that you are using it outside of your wifi (logon to another router somewhere).
port forward 80 and 9000 to a static address of the dvr box. One other thing that may or may not be important -- on my router I set up port forwarding to a static ip address before I rebooted the dvr (pulled power). In other words, dvr at 192.168.1.99, changed it to 192.168.1.223, did port forward magic on westell modem and specified the 223 ipaddress on both 9000 and 80, and finally recycle power on dvr. I have no idea why this sequence mattered EXCEPT I don't think I did anything differently for the days before with portforwarding and it never worked until I did this sequence -- so go figure -- may have just been a conincidence but I'm not going to change a thing now.
I still can't get ASEE or KMEYE to work but IP Cam Viewer (IPAD-small fee), and IP Cam basic and lite (Android-free) appear to work -- see kwetz post above for specifics. If anyone can explain how you need to set up asee and kmeye, please post it.