no1 wrote:The precise definition for transgender remains in flux"
Transgender is a specific term with a specific definition, it's just that the definition doesn't specify orientation.
You can say somebody is "male" or "Asian" without specifying whether they're gay or straight; does that mean those words are vaguely defined terms with their true meanings in flux? Yeah, didn't think so. Same for transgender.
Transgender people are those who were born with their body belonging to one gender and their brain belonging to the other. It isn't about a boy "wanting" to be a girl, it's much deeper than that. It's someone with boy parts who identifies on a very basic primal level as a girl.
I'm not trans myself, but many close friends are, and I'm told the feeling of having the "wrong" body parts can be horrifying nightmare material at worst, uncomfortable and awkward at best. Something I've also heard described repeatedly is that it often feels shameful, almost like those dreams where you're back in high school, walking through the halls totally naked, and nobody seems to notice. You feel like everyone must be staring at you, and you want to cover yourself up, even though you're the only one who realizes that something is very much wrong.
I can't imagine going through life feeling that way every time I leave the house.
Trans people can be gay or straight. Generally, they refer to themselves using the pronoun of the gender they identify with, not the one they were born as. The label gay or straight is applied to the "true" gender, not the biological one. So: a transgender woman is someone born with male parts who identifies as female. If she feels attraction towards women, she is typically considered to be a gay trans woman, not a straight male, even though she has a male's body and a love of women. If she's attracted to men, then she'll identify as a straight woman, not a gay male. Make sense?
It may seem like it's all just semantics, but being trans and being gay are definitely not the same thing.